Confidence is something that many of us struggle with, but it is one of the key ingredients in order for you to achieve professional and personal success. Confident individuals inspire other people to grow and they are open-minded. But there is more to it and that is exactly what you will discover in this blog post.
The biggest issue regarding the topic is that people confuse arrogance with confidence. Truth is: they cannot be more different. If you want to know more about the differences between arrogance and confidence, read my blog article here.
Confidence can be expressed in many different forms, but it is useful to know at least a few of the traits that confident individuals possess.
They don’t feel the need to prove anything to anyone.
Individuals with low self-esteem are especially vulnerable to experiencing approval-seeking behaviour. Confident people, on the other hand, rarely seek the approval of others (perhaps only from people that truly matter to them). These people know that they don’t have to prove anything to anyone.
For example, suppose you wrote a comment under someone’s post on Facebook and someone had an opposing view. People who are not confident would do everything to try to defend themselves. Confident people will just accept that the other person’s point of view is different from theirs and will not be bothered by that.
Read more about why we seek other people’s approval in my blog article here.
They celebrate the success of other individuals.
In my opinion, a lack of jealousy is one of the best qualities confident people possess. If a confident person sees someone succeeding and doing as well as they are, they will celebrate that success with them and will not be overtaken by jealousy. A confident person is comfortable with their own success, their own life, and are overall happy.
Their happiness comes from themselves.
For each of us, our source of happiness is different. For some of us, happiness comes from other people’s approval. For some, it derives from other people’s company. Confident people find happiness within themselves. Self-assured people know how to be happy by themselves. As a result, they tend to be more independent compared to people who are not confident.
They are comfortable with saying “no”.
Saying “no” to someone is often perceived as a sign of selfishness, but it cannot be further from the truth. Confident people are comfortable saying this two-letter word to someone because they know their limits and are self-aware. They know their abilities and prioritise self-care.
They are amazing listeners.
Confident people don’t feel the need to draw attention to themselves at all times. They listen a lot more than they speak. They respect others and value their views (regardless if they are the same as theirs or different).
They are comfortable with accepting responsibility.
Avoiding taking responsibility for your own actions is a sign of insecurity and low self-esteem. When a person is self-assured, they have no problem showing that they are not perfect. That they are humans who learn something new every day. They accept that they made a mistake, move on from it and simply try to do better next time.
They don’t look down on others.
There is this misconception that confident people put themselves on a pedestal and try to demonstrate that they are better than others. But there is not an ounce of truth in this statement. We often confuse confidence with arrogance. Arrogant people are the ones making others feel inferior. Confident people respect others and see them as equals.
They are more self-aware.
Confident people are often more self-aware and there is a reason for it. They are not shy to get to know themselves, their strengths and weaknesses, and identify their limits. Being self-aware can help you a lot. When you know what you want, when to stop, or when to keep going, you will be unstoppable.
They are assertive.
Self-assured people are not afraid to express how they feel, what they want and what they think they deserve. For instance, if you go to a job interview and negotiate your potential salary with your potential employer, don’t be shy to ask exactly the amount you think you deserve for your expertise or effort. Know your worth.