If you are someone who is struggling with low self-esteem, you are definitely not alone. You may find this unbelievable, but it is estimated that around 85% of people worldwide are suffering from low self-esteem. Crazy isn’t it? But why is the number so high? Why do people struggle with low self-esteem? How to improve your self-esteem? You will find all of the answers you are looking for in this article.
What is self-esteem?
The simplest definition has been proposed by Webster’s dictionary. It defines self-esteem as “confidence and satisfaction in oneself.” Self-esteem is always subjective. It is about how you view yourself based on your own beliefs and opinion, not how others perceive you.
Furthermore, self-esteem includes different elements, such as self-worth, self-respect and self-confidence. If your feelings about one or more of these elements are negative, it means you have low self-esteem. If your feelings are positive about any of these elements, then you have a healthy level of self-esteem.
Read more about the 9 traits that confident people own in my blog article here.
Why do so many people have low self-esteem?
Let’s shift our attention back to that large percentage of people dealing with low self-esteem that I mentioned at the beginning. We now know that around 85% of people worldwide suffer from low self-esteem. The next logical question is…why? Why are there so many people who can’t see their worth or have a negative perception of themselves?
My version is that there are just too many factors that can negatively impact one’s self-esteem. Every person in this world experiences challenges at some point in their lives and whenever something goes wrong in our lives, we blame/punish ourselves. What are some of the many factors that can affect your self-esteem? Find out in the next part of this post.
What affects your self-esteem?
As already mentioned: there are many life events or factors that can affect your self-esteem. Some of the most popular ones are presented below.
- Your childhood.
If your parents have been critical of you, expecting too much from you or even abused you verbally, it is no wonder that you would feel worthless or that you are “not good enough” or worse – as a failure.
- Unemployment or disability.
Again, these factors can make you feel worthless and like a failure.
- The age of your spouse.
According to Positive Psychology, being married to an older spouse is linked to lower self-esteem. It may be due to the fact that the older spouse has more life experience and has built a life for themselves already. You may experience a feeling of being inferior.
- Social norms.
This is about the extent to which the opinion of your friends and family about your body image or life choices matters to you. If you take these views personally and live by what other people have told you, it will result in low self-esteem.
- Social & economic factors.
Your geographical location, your living conditions, your income – it all can impact not only your stress levels and physical health but also your self-esteem.
What are the 3 types of self-esteem?
Very Well Mind discusses 3 types of self-esteem:
- Low self-esteem.
Main characteristics: feelings of being inferior, focusing on your flaws/weaknesses, fear of failure, trouble accepting compliments, lack of self-confidence and the urge to please others and put the needs of others first.
- Healthy self-esteem.
Main characteristics: not dwelling on past experiences, self-confidence, assertiveness and the ability to say “no”.
- Excessive/inflated self-esteem.
Main characteristics: concerned about being perfect, overestimating your skills/abilities, feelings of being superior to others, you believe that you cannot fail.
How to improve your self-esteem.
The part that you were probably looking forward to the most: how can you improve my self-esteem? Let’s find out, shall we?
- Spend your time with the right people.
Spend your time with people who have aspirations of their own, are not consumed by jealousy, lift you up and celebrate your success with you. Have these people in your life. You don’t need someone in your life who will drag you down and negatively impact your life.
- Celebrate even the smallest achievements.
Don’t listen to those people, who say: “It’s nothing special. Let’s celebrate when you succeed for real.” Every achievement regardless of its significance is amazing and worth recognising.
- No matter who you are – own it!
Embrace your uniqueness, physical appearance and personality. It is a world full of copies, do you really want to be just another copy? Unoriginal and unnoticed?
- Be your own friend.
Be the one who does good to your own body and mind. Add an extracurricular activity to your day, open your mind to new possibilities, inspire yourself and celebrate yourself. Don’t be your own enemy.
- Give back to other people.
Doing a good deed and helping someone in need is like a hug to your soul. It makes you feel a sense of achievement, self-worth and warms your heart to see that you can make a positive difference in someone else’s life.
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Do you have any ideas on how to improve your self-esteem? Let me know in the comments. I would love to hear them!